Blog for Christmas weekend~

Hello everyone, in the spirit of Abby’s Lane this is a day late ๐Ÿ˜‰
In our house we do celebrate Christmas, and we wish a Merry Christmas to all of our customers who have supported us this year and any of the 7 years past. We also wish a Happy Hannukah, a Happy Kwanzaa and a peaceful Winter Solstice to our customers as well ๐Ÿ™‚ While this holiday season is full of peace and joy, there are many of our customers where this season may be full of sadness and anxiety, and I want to offer a special prize for those families. This may be the first year the holiday season is experienced with a divorce or separation, the first season where a special family member is not present due to a death in the family, unemployment, loss of a home, a shaky outlook for 2012. Miscarriage and infertility is present in the homes of many of our customers, your emails and notes over the years drives home how many of our wonderful families suffer with secondary infertility or repeated loss of pregnancy.
I would like to offer a $25.00 gift certificate to one person who comments below, you can share your story of why this season is different than those past, or if you wish to not share, simply comment below with a “entering” so we know to include you. My hope is a mom or dad who enters can use it for diapers if they have one in them, shoes for an older child, or if your babies are done with our store products, a little CJs gift pack to pamper yourself for a few minutes in the next few weeks.

On our tree, I have bought a little silver “My First Christmas” ornament for each of my 5 children, and I love to hang them close together in the front, their names and year of their birth is engraved somewhere on the ornament. Also in this group of 5 little “Firsts” are 3 little ornaments without a name or date. The first is a very cheaply made angel ornament, it is meant to be a pin to fasten to a sweater or jacket, but with a string on it passes for a Christmas ornament. When I bought it, we had no room in the weekly budget almost 8 years ago, so a clearance priced Christmas pin was all I could do, that was for our first pregnancy loss in January of 2005. Another angel would follow a few years later, a little silver ornament with a glass bead dangling from the wings for loss #2, and a third wooden angel joined the tree two years later for loss #3. We have been blessed with 5 beautiful, healthy and spunky babies, and as the years have gone by the pain of the losses isn’t as sharp, but those little ones will always have a special place in our hearts. As our family Christmas card has the pictures of our children, here I want to acknowledge the little ones who didn’t get a chance to be held, nursed, worn, have a fluffy little bum and make it on that card. To Max, Mary and Apryl we love you very much โค

We wish you a beautiful holiday season, and a peaceful and healthy winter time, thank you for your support for close to 8 years now. From myself and the mamas who work with us:
Stephanie (there are 2 of us!)

We wish you a beautiful Christmas and Holiday Season ๐Ÿ™‚


December 24, 2011. Uncategorized.


  1. Katelynne replied:

    Christmas is way different for my two girls (4 and 1) this year. Their father and I divorced this past summer, and he is not really active in their lives. It’s been a hard adjustment to being a single mom, but I’m lucky that I get to work from home so that I can still be around and present for them.

    I have tried to turn this year around and instead of focusing on the loss of the “family traditions” we have started some new ones (putting out reindeer food tonight :D) and really focused on scaling down and enjoying more of the spirit of Christmas than the materialistic side.

  2. Kelly replied:

    I had hoped that I would be able to spend Christmas with my 3 year old daughter. Instead, she is still halfway across the world an an orphanage while her mama waits for a court date in her country that will allow us to bring her home.

    I miss her terribly.

    Knowing that we couldn’t spend Christmas with our sweet girl, we sent a box of toys, clothes, and other things to the orphanage for her group–essentially her “family” of 15 children. We have more than enough, and we were so glad to spread a little cheer to our daughter, her friends, and her orphanage director. I think it’s something we’ll do every year even after she’s home.

  3. Becky replied:

    This year I went from being a mama of 1 to a mama of 3! We will be celebrating the holidays this year with our DS (3.5) and our B/G twins (2 months) … life is good ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. christine jessamine replied:


  5. Kimberly replied:

    This year isn’t that different, its more that it is half empty. We were able to celebrate Christmas all together last year, but my son was only 3 months. This year my sons dad and my husband is deployed. He has missed many mile stones throughout this year already, from crawling, to walking, so eating human food. I sometimes wish that I could swap places so that he would be able to witness all the major mile stones. Instead of just being able to skype with one another every few weeks. This year we were able to provide for him a awesome Christmas, but knowing skype it will probably be down and he wont be able to see them open the gifts except for on video. We are lucky though as well that in a few months we will be able to see eachother once again. Hope you all have a Merry Christmas over there at Abby’s Lane!

  6. Samantha Allen replied:


    We lost grandpa (my father in law) this month. It’s been a roller coaster, but God is good to us and giving us strength.

    smoo06 at yahoo dot com

  7. Pollyanna Valenzuela replied:

    Happy Holidays to everyone!!
    First off I’m married to US NAVY SAILOR together we have a 5 yr old and a 7 week old baby boy. This year has been a rollercoaster for our family we went from living in San Diego, CA to Kingsville, TX from the city to a very small town why the move? The military !! We got stationed here and with doing so my husband got a huge pay cut the cost of living in California is higher then Texas. So our housing allowence changes. We have bills to pay like everyone else but now were just trying to play catch up becuase of the paycut has made us late on our bills. It’s been very hard through it all one thing that remains the same is that God is Always there for us. Thank you for taking the time to read my life. It would be great to win but whoever does get this will be blessed. Thank you for offering this out of the kindness of your heart. Thank you

    God Bless
    Happy Holidays

  8. Jen replied:

    This year is different because we won’t be seeing any family. It seem great not to have to travel but I’m not sure how I”ll feel about not being with extended family on Christmas day.

    jenniferbleiler at gmail dot com

  9. Charlotte McConnell replied:

    My mother died 6 years ago while I was on my honeymoon in HI. This year I had my first Child and 6 weeks after he was born, my father died. Thankfully my father did get a chance to meet my son but once again I was not able to be with him when he died as we live 4 hours apart. This is my first XMAS without parents and as a parent. We do not have family in the area and not a lot of support. My son is almost 8 months old and we are trying to figure out holiday traditions for our little family.
    Happy Holidays everyone!

  10. Tara E replied:

    Christmas is different this year b/c I just was released from hospital. Our second miscarriage this year unfortunately ended with me getting an infection, and requiring a D&C. After 3 days in hospital, I’m happy to be with my husband and son for Christmas and to be back on the mend. I’m hoping that 2012 will bring many great things for us. ๐Ÿ™‚

  11. Ellen replied:

    This year is different because I’m a momma for the first time to our beautiful daughter!

  12. Becky Knepp replied:

    This year my father in law passed away suddenly from a stroke. It was very hard on my husband, especially when everyone got to thinkig that he never got to meet our Richard. Richard was the first grandson of all the grandchildren and I know my father would have loved him.

  13. Aman replied:

    This year is the first year both of my boys will be able to truly enjoy Christmas. My 3.5 year old is so excited. He knows Santa is coming and he knows it’s Jesus’ birthday. The magic of Christmas is all new to me again when I see it through his eyes.

    I lost my job a year ago, right before Christmas. This year, we’ve decided that I’m going to remain a full time stay at home mom. Christmas time is so much more fun when I can enjoy decorating, baking, wrapping and shopping with my boys. This time is so precious and short. I’m so thrilled to see them happy and joyful ๐Ÿ˜€

  14. Bridgett zaidi replied:

    This year we are about to start a new journey, I’m expecting twins. They are very high risk since they are in the same sac and sharing a placenta. My 2nd son was born with a metabolic disorder and there’s a 25% chance these babies can have the same disorder. This is a joyous and scary time for me. Praying everyday my babies will come safely into this world and healthy next year . I’m excited to see my family of 4 turn into 6.

  15. Mary Ann replied:

    My husband was laid off earlier this year, a month before our daughter was born. With a mortgage to pay, an almost 4 year old to take care of, and no health coverage (we didn’t qualify for Cobra), it was an incredibly stressful way to welcome our newest addition. My children and I qualified for Medicaid and SNAP, which has taken a huge burden from our backs. My husband started his own business, though, which made him in eligible for unemployment benefits. Each month we worry about paying all the bills and if we’ll have enough to cover our next month’s mortgage. Gifts I’d hoped to buy my children have been pared down. And this is the first year I haven’t bought gifts for my nieces and nephews. Still, my son is so excited for Christmas and it is contagious. We’ll be making sugar cookies and Christmas cupcakes today. ๐Ÿ™‚

  16. Krystal replied:

    Merry Christmas everyone! This holiday season is definitely more hectic for us because we are sharing it with a new little one. So exciting!

  17. Laotian Mana replied:

    Living within our means has helped us be happy and still comfortable but it seems no matter how many hours or days we work, our first Christmas with our baby boy wouldn’t be complete without the generosity or love from his grandparents. It pains me that in order to make “more” money, we have to see “less” of our son. We make it work and he doesn’t see a babysitter at all – either just mama or dada.

    I love your inspiration with your offer of Christmas love and I hope to one day be able to pay it forward when we’re on our feet.

  18. Maia G replied:

    My husband got his hours cut in August, and we thought he would be able to work more by now, but that is not the case. We are making it work on a weekly salary of $160.

  19. Romina replied:

    In the past year, I’ve attended more funerals than I can remember, including my grandfather’s. He retired early just to raise his grandchildren and I will never forget the sacrifice he made for us.

  20. Lisa replied:


  21. Chelsea replied:

    This year, we are celebrating our 6-month-old’s first Christmas. I had a miscarriage 4 months before I got pregnant with him, and we are so thankful he has arrived safely. I still miss the baby we lost, and last Christmas was a month before my guess date for that baby, but our family is amazed by what an awesome baby we have been blessed with this year.

    This year also brought about my husband’s graduation from RN school, as well as a new (foreclosed, needs work) home! We had to move, because we were going to exceed our city’s housing limit with the birth of our 3rd baby. Because we are finally out of an apartment, we have been able to start cloth diapering as well as doing some of the other things we’ve always wanted to do with our kids. Money is tight because of school, the house, and making sure I’m home with our kids a priority.

    In spite of all this, I would plan to use this $25 for my friend who also had a baby after a miscarriage this summer. Though hers was after 4 pregnancy losses! She is our pastor’s wife, and I would like very much to be able to get some nice things for her and her baby. She dropped everything and took me to the ER (even bringing her teenage daughter to babysit the older kids) when I was miscarrying and my husband couldn’t get home soon enough. She is a doula, often for free, and is very generous and giving. If I could nominate her for this giveaway, I would, but would like very much to win for her sake. ๐Ÿ™‚

  22. Sabrina R replied:

    This has been a very trying year on us and only with GOD have we made it through. I hope all the A.L. team and families (facebook fans and staff!) have a blessed and prosperous 2012 โค

  23. Samantha Cuhel replied:

    Christmas is different this year, first of all, because it is our only child’s first Christmas, and we finally get to share it with him (he was born in January). Last Christmas I was almost 9 months pregnant, we just lost our home, and we had to sell our only vehicle to buy a crib and car seat. Christmas’s before were nothing special. My parents have been divorced since I was 5 months old, and each holiday was spent watching my parents fight over who would get to spend more time with me. My fiance’s parents are both deceased, so this is his first “family” Christmas he’ll be having in years.

    My fiance recently got hurt at work, and we are still waiting for his first disability check. We’re behind on rent, still don’t have a car, and couldn’t buy anything for our son’s first Christmas. I would love to be able to spoil him with a soft squishy new diaper for the holidays ๐Ÿ™‚

  24. Meredith E. replied:

    This is our first Christmas with our first baby, Carter. He’s 7 months old, almost crawling, but not quite, so the ornaments aren’t in danger, yet. lol. We are in TN visiting my in-laws and will have Christmas with my parents on New Year’s. We can’t wait to celebrate the blessing of Jesus with our little blessing.

  25. Drea replied:


  26. Raena replied:

    This year is different because it is my daughter’s first Christmas and it’s the first year that I won’t spend it with my mother and siblings. ๐Ÿ˜ฆ Hopefully my mother will move back to this state so we can all be together again. I miss her so much. She has become my best friend. ๐Ÿ™‚

  27. carola replied:


  28. vanessa replied:

    entering for my niece who is without her daddy this year.

  29. D Marie (@ladleaimer) replied:

    We have four children, one is just not here with us today. My children lost a brother in 2008 when I was almost six months pregnant. We have a few personalized ornaments on the tree for him as well. I think of him frequently and hold the delivery blanket that I held him in from time to time. The holidays can be bittersweet when a loss has been experienced; no matter how fresh or old it is.

    Nonetheless, we are thankful for all the blessings we were given.

  30. Amanda Alvarado replied:

    I want to thank you for this post! See we lost our 2nd little girl (3rd child total) a little over 2.5 yrs ago and haven’t been able to get pregnant again. Every Christmas I have wanted to get an ornament just for her but just couldn’t bring myself to do it. I saw a Halmark one that I loved this year but again didn’t buy it. Well after reading your post, I was thinking abou it during the Children’s Mass. I told myself if the store that sells Hallmark ornaments was still open I’d stop in and see if they had it. We drove by on the way home and I saw people in the store so I had dh turn around and go back. As I’m walking in the door I see the Hours sign. They close at 6pm and it’s 5:58pm. I go to where they have the Hallmark ornaments and start looking for it. I finally find a box but it’s empty. I asked an employee about it and she said it’s on dispay so she proceeds to take it down from the display and put it in the box for me. It was the last one! I pay and almost didn’t make it out the door before breaking down. I couldn’t even tell dh other than to tell him to look at the ornament. Anyway it is hanging on our tree and our dd hung it up for her little sister! Thank you! If it wouldn’t have been for this post, I wouldn’t have even stopped.

  31. Gina replied:


  32. Carita replied:

    We struggled through 10 years of infertility resulting in numerous failed IUI and IVF treatments, but this is the 1st Christmas we’ll get to celebrate Christmas as a family of 3 because we adopted a beautiful baby boy in March. The years of waiting and persevering were all worth it to have this precious son of ours in our arms today!

  33. Raquel replied:

    Thanks for sharing your story. We will always miss our son Sidney who was stillborn in 2010. This year we are very happy to be sharing Hanukkah with Sidney’s beautiful brother Jethro. Wishing a hopeful and healing season for all.

  34. April Stierman replied:

    Instead of running back and forth between family we like every other year. We chose to stay at home with our kids on both Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. It was the first time we were really able to focus on our family and not have to worry about being here or there and when. It was so relaxed and fun just us and our four little ones (including our newborn!). I believe we might have started a new tradition.

  35. Cyndie Feemster replied:

    With the loss of my younger brother 5 years ago, christmas was never the same. Christmas was the last time i had got to see him. This year even though we miss him dearly, my 5 month old has made this season enjoyable again. Hayden’s middle name is Kristopher after his uncle whom he never met.
    I do have days when he smile and i can see a look that reminds me of him.

  36. Sarah Jane replied:


  37. Melissa replied:

    This Christmas would have been
    my Owen’s 3rd Christmas. After suffering from infertility for 5 years, our twins were conceived with IVF. After a healthy pregnancy, Owen died 24 hrs before their full term birth of unknown reasons. Now we have his surviving twin Sophia who is 2.5 and our beautiful rainbow baby Natalie who just turned 1. Amidst all the chaos of presents on Christmas I couldn’t help but think how much crazier it should have been with 3 kids instead of just 2. Miss that little guy.

  38. Brooke replied:

    Lost my dad this year and welcomed a new baby boy into our family. It has been a year full of sadness and joy.

  39. abbyslane replied:

    Amanda A, check your inbox ๐Ÿ™‚

  40. mamapama replied:

    entering ๐Ÿ™‚

    All four of my grandbabies were in my home for Christmas and I can’t even begin to describe the joy of watching my children take the love I poured into them and raise their children. The house was bustling with so much Christmas cheer, I can’t wait to do it all over again! Also, I’m encouraging my teen daughter to use cloth diapers on her baby girl. She received a Bumgenius AIO for Christmas and it would be so great to win your drawing to help invest in more! Happy New Year!

  41. skye replied:


    I would love to get some Bumgenius Freetimes to put on our little blessing of 2011. We welcomed our 4th child, and second son in March. I love Christmas with my large family!

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